Wouldn’t it be great if you could walk out into the world and start approaching beautiful women everywhere and anywhere you go without a second thought or any hesitation? Yeah, that would be great, but that can be a recipe for burning out and unrealistic for most guys that are starting this journey.
I’m going to propose something that goes against a lot of conventional advice…
When first starting out, set your goals of approaching women at a very low and attainable level.
Imagine you’re someone who’s never really worked out much in his life and then all of a sudden you decide that you’re going to start working out two hours a day, five days a week… Professional fitness models workout that much! How about going back to school? If you haven’t done any reading or any kind of work that requires a lot of mental focus and you try to take a full load of college level classes, there’s a high probability that you’re going to get frustrated and burn out.
How about approaching one woman that you’re attracted to a day for a week or so rather than setting some ridiculous goal?
If you’re like most guys, talking to 7-14 new women over the course of a week or two is quite a few more than you would normally talk to. Perhaps exactly 7-14 more than you would normally talk to?
Start with one a day and then you can build it up to two approaches a day, then 3, 4, and so on.
If you are one of those rare individuals that can dive into this head first and approach 12 new women a day, four days a week, then by all means do it. I will never discourage a guy from pushing himself and utilizing his fullest potential.
For most guys though, I think it’s important to recognize that men that can just snap their fingers and instantly transform themselves into a guy that talks to women everywhere are exceptions to the rule, not the general rule.
Approaching a lot of women without burning out and without sacrificing other areas of your life is difficult.
The amount of energy this can zap out of you can be substantially magnified if you are someone that has moderate to high levels of approach anxiety, too.
Of course building yourself up to doing more approaches on a consistent basis can substantially invigorate you and fill you with more energy once you get used to it, but when starting out, don’t get discouraged if you find it difficult to approach a lot. That’s normal.
<style=”color: #33cccc;”>Set the bar low and gradually work your way up.