Many guys waste a lot of time searching for ways to overcome their approach anxiety to no avail. For those that don’t know, “approach anxiety” is just what it sounds like. It’s a fear-based emotion that is experienced when you’re about to approach a woman that you’re attracted to. Some guys have a very high degree of approach anxiety, some have very little, and some have a moderate level.
There are many interesting ways that approach anxiety can be reduced and some are relatively effective, but there is one tactic that trumps them all…
You have to realize that the fear doesn’t go away before taking action. It goes away afterwards.
It’s a tough thing to face, but the sooner you do, the sooner you will learn to deal with the fear. For some guys, approach anxiety can virtually disappear once they get into the swing of approaching. For other guys, the fear is always there, but they learn to deal with it and power through it. Most guys experience a reduction in approach anxiety in due time, though it doesn’t go away entirely.
I know it sounds way too simple to be true, but it’s true.
The number one way to get over the fear of the approach is to approach in spite of your fear.
Be afraid and approach anyway. Trust that in due time, the anxiety will subside.
This is one of the top if not THE top skill that you need to develop if you want to be successful with meeting new women. If you can’t develop this skill, then you need to focus on meeting women through your social circle, online, or you need to get good at making women approach you, which is doable, but somewhat inconsistent and difficult.
In some upcoming posts, we’ll look at some of the other ways that approach anxiety can be reduced, but this is the big one.
If you can develop the habit of approaching women that you’re attracted to, regardless of being afraid, and trust that the fear will go away afterwards, you will have a put a huge piece of the puzzle in its place.